Check out this article and very short video from the blog of Salman Kahn:
https://www.khanacademy.org/about/blog/post/95208400815/the-learning-myth-why-ill-never-tell-my-son-hes

Very important messages for our children -- and ourselves!  I showed the video to the kids today and reiterated the message that when something is hard and we keep messing it up and failing...that's when we are getting smarter!  That's learning!

I will remind them of this often.
~DMcF